YOU BETTER NOT BRING A WHITE BOY HOME!!

[Queen Of Filth]

Have you ever had a parent tell you that? My dad was watching Lakeview terrace or what ever it's called and he just started going on a completely random topic: If I date a white boy. My mom got mad at him and said that I could marry whoever I wanted too ( not that I am getting married. There is something about sharing a room with a "soulmate" that makes me want to keep my room all to myself). Does anyone else face these issues from parents? And to tell the truth im not even intrested in any guys ( or girls) i'm focusing on other things.

[jahluv]

When I was stationed in Japan and told my mom I was dating a local, she wasn't too happy about it. My dad threw out a humdinger of a comment one day when he got in my car and my then White girlfriend's spiked bracelet was in the glove box. Now that I'm a parent I thought it would be an issue for me - but I could care less as long as whoever he dates is sane and is about progress.

[CaliforniaAfrican]

I heard this all the time, directed at my older brother, "Don't bring no White girl home." Oh, my beautiful father. Atiba, my brother, listened and never did. Daddy never said it to me. I was so Afrocentric and into Black history, I guess he didn't worry about me, the militant one. lol I was pretty shocked by his cordial behavior when I brought Mike, a White man, home to meet him. My dad was cool. He even told me later that day, "I just want you to find someone who loves you." Time really can change someone's perspective. I think my dad saw all the idiots I had dated before for the idiots that they were. All of whom were of African descent. Oh, yeah, and the two from the continent. lol Wow, I got stories! lol

Just like Brotha JahLuv, as a parent, I want my daughter and sun to be happy. Heck, both of them may decide to love someone of the same gender. Your dad has reasons to feel the way he does. Just remember that he loves you, and that you will be an adult one day. As an adult, you will make your own decisions, sis. I learned that one's parents always come around. I'm glad that you're not even thinking about relationships. Focus on you. Enjoy your youth, sista! I'm sure your dad will have plenty of other things to say that will perplex you.

[Juicyincouture]

my mom always says 'dont bring home a slave master' lol. i mean it's not right but i do get where she is coming from. honestly idc i like who i like pd whether they are black blue orange or pink.

[Mlle d. Sade]

I hear this all the time. Not like I care. I don't bring anyone home but that doesn't mean I'm sexless; it just means I know the closedmindedness I'm dealing with. They can't even handle the FACT that I'm into women. Fuck all the noise. I'm so over it, I can't even put it into words how little I care about what they want me to do. Been toying with the idea of bringing a girlfriend to family outings. Just to start shit.

[Compound Egret]

Heard it. Did not heed. Like the AP parents mentioned, it eventually got modified to "find someone that makes you happy". One thing I always thought was funny was that back then sistas would routinely banish me to the friendzone "I just don't see you that way" while women of other races seemed to be much more open to dating or hooking up. To be fair, at the time I was OBSESSED with skateboarding and speed metal, was broke, scruffy, had no car, wasn't thinking about the future, and didn't care as long as I could get to see the metal show of the weekend or periodically go record and zine hunting in San Francisco or Berkeley. I'm not pure as the driven snow, but I passed on a lot of those random opportunities because I didn't want to have a baby and some random baby's momma.

I remember my Mom hoping and telling me she was literally praying that one of my siblings was hetero, so I'm sure she has said the same thing about me.

If I was a parent I would probably talk to my child about their inherent value as a person and encourage them to find someone who saw that, affirmed it, and also made them want to improve themselves regardless of their race. Does that person encourage you to do better or are you a codependent rescuer? I would also encourage them to be culturally and socially versatile. Be able to go see Kreator and be able to suit up for first Sunday without feeling uncomfortable.

[NotSoPhotogenic]

I wouldn't say my mom is without prejudice, but ultimately, it doesn't really matter to her whoever I bring home-- if I'm happy, she's happy. My father, on the other hand, is a bigot, but I really don't give a $hit about what he thinks, and besides, I don't think he'll ever approve of anyone I bring home. Oh well... I say be with whoever you want to be. As long as its a good relationship, it doesn't matter who its with.

[willy l]

my mother said no white girls to prom. i ended up going by myself because all the black ones canceled on me

[Queen Of Filth]

Awww :(

willy l said:

my mother said no white girls to prom. i ended up going by myself because all the black ones canceled on me

[Queen Of Filth]

If I ever did bring a guy home , he would have to have a personality. I don't see why the fact that he's white or green or really really dark even matters. I think it's just the way my dad grew up and the way white people treated him. When he was growing up , you couldn't even drink at the same fucking water fountain as a white person. It's pretty stupid that Jim Crow laws where enacted - that was against life , liberty and the pursuit of happiness, Pregnant women died because white nurses didn't want to birth the babies, men where accused of raping white women. Although we live in a "different" time now my father didn't forget what happened in the past. i'm not saying I agree 100% , but then again , I do see where he is coming from.

[shoot that beast]

I think the parents are right: don't date/marry/have sex with these cave-painters. These parents are probably speaking from experiences they've seen or had with them, so they're probably just exercizing caution. You can't trust the devils and history supports this. As for dating Mexicans, Asians, Ay-Rabs, etc. we can't identify with these people, so we should avoid becoming romantically with them.

It's really as simple as finding a black person you're compatible with and not painting a broad bush against your racial kin because of the bad experiences with a few misguided folks. I also disagree with this tendency to, for lack of a better word, settling for a devil (or other race) because you get a long with them on a personal level and because they're seemingly more appealing than the available blacks. Fuck that! Stay available till that Black King/Queen arrives in your life. I'm afraid, though, it's much easier for many sell-out blacks, especially these sorry-ass niggas who are quick, quick, QUICK!!!! to date a white demoness than to man-up and find a strong sista, but they say black women have "attitudes," etc and other nonsense They milk the shit outta this excuse.

[RobertTidwell]

Who is to say that all black people can't relate to all white people? I'm white and have only ever dated black women and mostly they tell me that they don't date black men because they don't know any who listen to music they like, dress like they like, are interested in books that they like, etc. This doesn't mean that the women I've dated didn't think that there were black men into the things they were into, just that they didn't know any.

Also, I think many of the women I've dated resent comments like what you've stated about being "sell outs" and not being true to their race as if they owed anybody anything. My ex, Zenia, got beat up one day for wearing a Bob Marley shirt, and the bitch that beat her up kept saying she wasn't "Black enough" to wear Bob Marley shit.

I personally like the Bulworth plan, voluntary procreative racial deconstruction. :-D

We spend a lot of time in our lives trying to make other people happy, when it comes to dating, find what works for you and run with it.

My parents have never said anything to me about dating black women.

infamous lifestylez said:

I think the parents are right: don't date/marry/have sex with these cave-painters. These parents are probably speaking from experiences they've seen or had with them, so they're probably just exercizing caution. You can't trust the devils and history supports this. As for dating Mexicans, Asians, Ay-Rabs, etc. we can't identify with these people, so we should avoid becoming romantically with them.

It's really as simple as finding a black person you're compatible with and not painting a broad bush against your racial kin because of the bad experiences with a few misguided folks. I also disagree with this tendency to, for lack of a better word, settling for a devil (or other race) because you get a long with them on a personal level and because they're seemingly more appealing than the available blacks. Fuck that! Stay available till that Black King/Queen arrives in your life. I'm afraid, though, it's much easier for many sell-out blacks, especially these sorry-ass niggas who are quick, quick, QUICK!!!! to date a white demoness than to man-up and find a strong sista, but they say black women have "attitudes," etc and other nonsense They milk the shit outta this excuse.

[kifaru]

Now you're trippin'.

infamous lifestylez said:

I think the parents are right: don't date/marry/have sex with these cave-painters. These parents are probably speaking from experiences they've seen or had with them, so they're probably just exercizing caution. You can't trust the devils and history supports this. As for dating Mexicans, Asians, Ay-Rabs, etc. we can't identify with these people, so we should avoid becoming romantically with them.

It's really as simple as finding a black person you're compatible with and not painting a broad bush against your racial kin because of the bad experiences with a few misguided folks. I also disagree with this tendency to, for lack of a better word, settling for a devil (or other race) because you get a long with them on a personal level and because they're seemingly more appealing than the available blacks. Fuck that! Stay available till that Black King/Queen arrives in your life. I'm afraid, though, it's much easier for many sell-out blacks, especially these sorry-ass niggas who are quick, quick, QUICK!!!! to date a white demoness than to man-up and find a strong sista, but they say black women have "attitudes," etc and other nonsense They milk the shit outta this excuse.