Post Coital Hygiene

[kifaru]

Me personally I would prefer my partner to wash afterward instead of basking in the glow and then falling asleep. I personally would prefer to at least wash my face and genitals and I think she should do at least the same. Your thoughts?

[Jervon]

Word. if we aren't having another go soon or I'm just exhausted, I got to get that latex smell off of me. This dude i use to work with would tell you to smell his finger from some ass(hopefully not literally) from the night before and i'd be like "nigga you didn't wash? You nasty motherfucker"

[Mlle d. Sade]

lol. ....that sounds like some kind of phobia to me.
"Must wash. ..not CLEAN! Dirty, dirty, scrub, scrub."
Men are supposed to like that shit, too.

I think this is because straight men aren't actually ejaculated INTO and have never been on that side of the bed. At that point, does it really freakin matter? You can't wash that far up anyway unless you douche after sex. ..which is not recommended.

[MER]

I'd go to sleep and do it in the morning. OR have a relaxing sexy bath together with my lovely just like in the movies ;)
ROFL

[BlaqJeff]

Sometimes before and always after.
I have an ex who used to enjoy sleeping in the by-product. That's why we always did it on her side of the bed.

[Nana Yeah!]

I dunno, it cleans off the same in the morning. I think it's sexy to snuggle and sleep right after sex. I haven't done that yet though so I can't say.

[kifaru]

Graphic Description warning!!!!!!!!!

Vaginal secretions are mucous so they tend to dry up and form a flaky crust. They also stick to hairs. Semen tends to just feel kinda slimy when its in a pool and unless you're using a condom it tends to run back out of your partner so you end up with this wet spot that doesn't dry quickly. any kind of lube makes it worse.

[Rosenda]

Kifaru, interesting question, I have not thought about this subject specifically. My answer might be TMI but hell you asked the question, Dude!

I think the only reason to bask in the afterglow is a) late night sex and it's cold in the winter. and b) the parties involved banged it so hard you really gotta just sit in the spot for loooooong while til you rest up and catch your breath. Otherwise, it's a great and refreshing thing for both parties to shower and bathe afterwards. :)

I have to agree with you there Calif African. We do seem to bathe before, not anything oppressive but as you said it, just to make the ensuing debauchery and lovemaking all the more freer. And damn, let me say it, it feels GOOD and even more sensitive everywhere when you've just bathed (together is good too hee hee) your skin and body. Trust me.

Actually I rather get all in the mood bathing beforehand.......washing down the playing field so we can really get into it. ;)

The occasional quickie that is unexpected when you just lift up your skirt and he pulls down his pants and you both go for it, well........* No time to shower really and that's okay.

I never thought about it but it is usually a habit with me and The Man to shower afterward if it's during the day, cause we might go out later, and definitely after it's an *ahem* extended lovemaking fun time. You know what I mean, stopping and starting, get up for juice or fruit or snack and then end up back in bed doing it all over again. After a couple hours of that on weekends, one DO need a good shower, It feels good too cause we both are pleasantly exhausted as well afterwards.

If it's the middle of the night bone in the zone, well hell ain't nobody is getting up to shower we just lay there and moan and cuddle happily and go back to sleep.

Funny thing.......last night that happened and there was a wet spot on top of the comforter somehow but I noticed we both ignored it and went to sleep. :)

[Greggie Phat]

I'm still in the stage where I like to wash because I'm lazy. Washing sheets before my typical scheduled date is too much more me. This is also due in part to the fact that I usually end up bathing prior to the activity as well. Why make more mess in the bed?

Ironically enough, I have slept in it after a particularly intense rounds of marathoning.

[Shaken From Complacency]

ha, for me its always before sometimes after. my ex hated me for this he would just mumble the sheets the sheets

BlackJeff said:

Sometimes before and always after.
I have an ex who used to enjoy sleeping in the by-product. That's why we always did it on her side of the bed.

[Ken-K]

When me and The Brit got down, she was insistent on me showering BEFORE coitus (in addition to afterwards), which I found odd, but not a totally out there request.

[kifaru]

Before is almost always better than not. The question is how long before.

[Mlle d. Sade]

Right before is best. Especially if you want oral. So many dudes taste like funk down there if they don't wash it out especially if it's right after a work out.