LookBook.nu

[C-Martin88]

i've been in the bad habit of looking up places like Lookbook.nu and /fa/ (4chan's fashion page" and looking for male "thinspiration"

just something to make me feel bad for the fact that i'm now at 5'11 and 240lbs (when i moved to indy, i was 190-200), when i wish i was 60 lbs less.

i've tried running since i moved to indy, but the first time i did, some guy threw a starbucks cup full of ice directly at the back of my head. ever since then, i've been nervous about doing any sort of exercise

has anyone else ever been through this??? any tips or advice or whatever???

[Mlle d. Sade]

I've been in your position. One time I was running on the bike trail and this dude started following me. I've had lots of stalker situations and people pointing and laughing. Kinda makes me not want to go outside but I have to do for myself. Sitting around being scared and sorry for myself wasn't working out.

I would just walk aimlessly for an hour, that's what I do. Then work your way up to running. Shin splints=do not want.

[PolarVibez]

I think the most important aspect to losing weight starts with diet. Look into altenatives to low-fat and less processed, and fried foods. Exercise is important but I think a disciplined diet is number one. For meat eaters I guess low carbs is important though I don't know much about that as I eat what I want as long as it is somewhat natural, not slathered in fat and not an animal product.

Until you get the courage to jog again I recommend calisthentics every morning. I do 100 pushups, crunches and squats as soon as I wake up (after streching of course). This is a a great way to get the blood and adrenaline flowing. It's better than coffee.

I don't know what kind of space and money you're working with but if outside is going to be an obstacle for awhile, perhaps a treadmill may work.

[C-Martin88]

PolarVibez said:

I don't know what kind of space and money you're working with but if outside is going to be an obstacle for awhile, perhaps a treadmill may work.

i don't have the space NOR money for one. i had a bike i used to ride to work but i got rid of it, so i usually take the bus or something.
i'm a pretty big "comfort eater", so anytime i feel like starting on some sort of diet plan, it falls completely to hell

[C-Martin88]

i don't have a problem with shin splints, it's getting random shit thrown at me which is the problem. lol

Mlle d. Sade said:

I've been in your position. One time I was running on the bike trail and this dude started following me. I've had lots of stalker situations and people pointing and laughing. Kinda makes me not want to go outside but I have to do for myself. Sitting around being scared and sorry for myself wasn't working out.

I would just walk aimlessly for an hour, that's what I do. Then work your way up to running. Shin splints=do not want.

[Rage_Proletaire]

About three or four years ago, I used to walk to work in the mornings. There was an intersection directly after crossing beneath the interstate where I used to get a lot of grief (wore an afro at the time, so I'd get a truck-full of white men throwing shit every now and then. Blimpie cups, fast food boxes, lots of whooping. Somebody threw a Gideon's New Testament (the pocket bible thing) once, as well. Still had to get up and do it every day; between bussing and walking, it took two hours to get there. Would smoke some days to work up the courage to deal with having to face people in cars, while I'm "in the nude", so to speak.

The people who take cheap shots do it 'cause they need to, maybe. Methinks it's a diversion tactic, so they'll feel better about themselves than they really do. Don't feel like I have that courage now (or maybe the courage, but not the tolerance for somebody in need of a character-building bludgeoning), although I wish I did. My wife keeps talking about walking/jogging again, with the baby in tow, but she has also cited the same thing that Mlle did. Stalkers types, or sometimes people who take offense to being turned down and overcompensate with persistence.

Personally, I think that, despite the bike trail near LSU, there's going to be somebody on any given day who's going to drive faster and more menacing because they see her with a baby stroller. Same goes for her, if she were alone. Same goes for me, soon as I'm assumed to be gay by a meatneack in a (hydraulic wonder of a) truck. Strangers so out of touch with themselves they have to force their presence on someone to feel validated or something stupid like that.

Don't know if it's supposed to get easier or more difficult (as you age), but I wish you luck with it. My own skin may not be as thick as it used to be, now that I drive.

C-Martin88 said:

i don't have a problem with shin splints, it's getting random shit thrown at me which is the problem. lol

Mlle d. Sade said:

I've been in your position. One time I was running on the bike trail and this dude started following me. I've had lots of stalker situations and people pointing and laughing. Kinda makes me not want to go outside but I have to do for myself. Sitting around being scared and sorry for myself wasn't working out.

I would just walk aimlessly for an hour, that's what I do. Then work your way up to running. Shin splints=do not want.

[LesYpersound]

forgive yourself for when you trip up on yer diet (everybody does it!)... honestly, i think learning how to cook for yourself and prepare healthy snacks will help you control what you eat.

C-Martin88 said:

PolarVibez said:

I don't know what kind of space and money you're working with but if outside is going to be an obstacle for awhile, perhaps a treadmill may work.

i don't have the space NOR money for one. i had a bike i used to ride to work but i got rid of it, so i usually take the bus or something.
i'm a pretty big "comfort eater", so anytime i feel like starting on some sort of diet plan, it falls completely to hell

[Obsidian]

Dang - fear of exercising in public. I wonder just how many people suffer from this???

I disdain people and think most are crazy anyway. People who feel the need to throw stuff at you or stalk you just because of how you look are fucking psychopaths. That being said, people throwing shit at me has never stopped me from rolling out of bed in the morning and exercising. My biggest peeve is other women who think someone like me should not be out jogging because I am "not fat, already thin." But I keep trucking and just put them on ignore. Frankly my health is much more important than other people's insecurities and particular insanities. That feeling of endorphins rushing through my body, the satisfaction of keeping in shape, the power that comes from being able to run for hours or for miles while some tired fat ass in a car has an attitude is just addictive. I love the hate as the hate means i am doing something right. It would be great to just run and not have to worry about hate, but such is life. If I want that love while I'm running, I just go run a 10k or something as then the crowd is throwing love your way. Learn to love it [the hate] and shake it off when people stoop to throwing shit and saying shit.

Best time to exercise and avoid shit - running early in the morning (4 to 7 at the latest) and in areas where other runners frequent. The bicyclist may be jackasses, but they can have your back against the "nonactives". Um, carry a rape whistle if you may be in areas of high isolation. Better yet, run in areas where other runners highly frequent and if not, know some of that Isreali martial arts and carry pepper spray. :P*

Living in Bermuda I don't have to worry about the racist stuff or rape stuff as much. I got it in Ontario though. Didn't so much experience it when I was in DC a while back running along a busy road in the mornings. Perhaps my headphones blocked out the hate; perhaps I was just too excited to be some place where the sidewalks stretch for miles and miles and miles passing by other runners with positive runners attitudes.

[Mlle d. Sade]

I'm a huge comfort eater, too.
Don't think of it as a "diet plan" just set very small goals like "today I'll drink more water" or "today, I'll eat less candy".

C-Martin88 said:

PolarVibez said:

I don't know what kind of space and money you're working with but if outside is going to be an obstacle for awhile, perhaps a treadmill may work.

i don't have the space NOR money for one. i had a bike i used to ride to work but i got rid of it, so i usually take the bus or something.
i'm a pretty big "comfort eater", so anytime i feel like starting on some sort of diet plan, it falls completely to hell

[Rage_Proletaire]

Mlle d. Sade said:

I've had lots of stalker situations and people pointing and laughing.

Why were they pointing and laughing?

[Mlle d. Sade]

I have nappy.

Rage_Proletaire said:

Mlle d. Sade said:

I've had lots of stalker situations and people pointing and laughing.

Why were they pointing and laughing?

[C-Martin88]

i know how to cook, it's just that i'm one of those comfort eaters where if i'm bummed out and a taco bell is close by, fuck fixing it myself :\

LesYpersound said:

forgive yourself for when you trip up on yer diet (everybody does it!)... honestly, i think learning how to cook for yourself and prepare healthy snacks will help you control what you eat.

C-Martin88 said:

PolarVibez said:

I don't know what kind of space and money you're working with but if outside is going to be an obstacle for awhile, perhaps a treadmill may work.

i don't have the space NOR money for one. i had a bike i used to ride to work but i got rid of it, so i usually take the bus or something.
i'm a pretty big "comfort eater", so anytime i feel like starting on some sort of diet plan, it falls completely to hell

[C-Martin88]

the funny thing is that i haven't really eaten candy in about 2 months, and i've gone up a pants size. Why Twizzlers, why must you have your revenge like this?!?!?

:P

Mlle d. Sade said:

I'm a huge comfort eater, too.
Don't think of it as a "diet plan" just set very small goals like "today I'll drink more water" or "today, I'll eat less candy".

C-Martin88 said:

PolarVibez said:

I don't know what kind of space and money you're working with but if outside is going to be an obstacle for awhile, perhaps a treadmill may work.

i don't have the space NOR money for one. i had a bike i used to ride to work but i got rid of it, so i usually take the bus or something.
i'm a pretty big "comfort eater", so anytime i feel like starting on some sort of diet plan, it falls completely to hell