Birth control killed my sex drive

[Mlle d. Sade]

Effectively nipping the risk of becoming pregnant in the bud, just not in the way I'd hoped for.

Have any other ladies out there experienced this?

I've been off the pill for about 5 months, now and I noticed it going from a 0 (no sex drive at all, I'd been on the pill for about 4 years) to a 2.5 which quickly went back to a 0 because as I'm sure we all know women's sex drives can be greatly influenced by stress and other external forces.

And of course, there's not a damn thing you can do to get it back.

[AuntKeke]

This is true.

[Mlle d. Sade]

AuntKeke said:

This is true.

Omg, so it really is the pill. *cries*

[Sandra "Panda"]

Yeah...it's true

[XiaMin]

condoms and lube will let you f and f and f without fear of invaders. the pill, and other hormonal birth control is havoc on women's bodies.

[Mlle d. Sade]

XiaMin said:

condoms and lube will let you f and f and f without fear of invaders. the pill, and other hormonal birth control is havoc on women's bodies.

Condoms can break and do nothing for my period/hormonal issues- I take it for more reasons than just constant reproduction control.
And one day, if I get into a serious, committed relationship (**snort**) I'd like to be able to do it without a condom or diaphragm w/o getting knocked up.
Besides my reasons for preferring the pill (promise of fewer periods a year, as well) I realize that even off the pill my sex drive will be low because as one of the cursed creature (woman) my sex drive is affected by more than hormones so it makes little difference that way, I'd still be not able to do it comfortably even if I wasn't on the pill.

Ah well, can't have your cake and eat it, too. The cake can't even have iicing on it so forget about sprinkles.

[CocoaPuss Zine]

if you really want to have sex without condoms later on but still feel protected from preg then maybe you should get an IUD implanted in you. you can get copper or hormonal. i had the hormonal and only had it taken out because i liked being able to control my own body, and the idea of it being inside of me and not being able to take it out whenever freaked me out. like anyday i felt like it, i could go off the pill, but not so with the IUD. but some people really like it. getting it inserted is easy and doesn't really hurt. i actually had sex the same day i got it put in. maybe you should think about it or read up on it.

as far as sex drives go on birth control, i also agree with xiamin about lube. also this is going to sound really fucked up, but even if i only want to have sex a little bit and he wants to have sex ALOT (i'm talking about desire, not endurance) then i'll just do it anyway, not to make him happy but because i know that once we get going, i'll want to have sex ALOT too, and get more into it once i start feeling it.

but of course it all depends on if you want to have sex. if you don't realy want to, then i'd just enjoy the time without it.

[Mlle d. Sade]

I'll think about the IUD but it still doesn't help my current situation. I'm familiar with the he wants to do it multiplied by I don't really want to= lots of lube, that's the whole reason I'm bitching about it. I don't really feel like having to go through that anymore but I do want to have sex if that makes sense. Having to concentrate really, really hard and buy a lot of lube is getting to be a real hassle. It severely takes away from the fun. :(

Damn cursed women's sexual health.

CocoaPuss Zine said:

if you really want to have sex without condoms later on but still feel protected from preg then maybe you should get an IUD implanted in you. you can get copper or hormonal. i had the hormonal and only had it taken out because i liked being able to control my own body, and the idea of it being inside of me and not being able to take it out whenever freaked me out. like anyday i felt like it, i could go off the pill, but not so with the IUD. but some people really like it. getting it inserted is easy and doesn't really hurt. i actually had sex the same day i got it put in. maybe you should think about it or read up on it.
as far as sex drives go on birth control, i also agree with xiamin about lube. also this is going to sound really fucked up, but even if i only want to have sex a little bit and he wants to have sex ALOT (i'm talking about desire, not endurance) then i'll just do it anyway, not to make him happy but because i know that once we get going, i'll want to have sex ALOT too, and get more into it once i start feeling it.
but of course it all depends on if you want to have sex. if you don't realy want to, then i'd just enjoy the time without it.

[LesYpersound]

i'd imagine the hormonal IUD would have similar fucking w/ yer body effects. and i've read in the United States you need to have had a baby or pregnancy in order to get an IUD. otherwise I would've gotten one too. :p

[Mlle d. Sade]

LesYpersound said:

i'd imagine the hormonal IUD would have similar fucking w/ yer body effects. and i've read in the United States you need to have had a baby or pregnancy in order to get an IUD. otherwise I would've gotten one too. :p

And be in a stable relationship. .....yeah, same exact hormonal screw over.

I guess I'm done with sex. That is some highly effective birthcontrol.

[CocoaPuss Zine]

no that's not true. there are two types of IUDs. one is hormonal and one is not. the one that is not is copper. my friend sarah got one and she does not have kids. the copper one is good for 10 years and you can get it taken out whenever you feel like it. you really should look into it. there are absolutely no hormones involved, but like every form of birth control there are risks.

http://www.paragard.com/


Mlle d. Sade said:

LesYpersound said:

i'd imagine the hormonal IUD would have similar fucking w/ yer body effects. and i've read in the United States you need to have had a baby or pregnancy in order to get an IUD. otherwise I would've gotten one too. :p

And be in a stable relationship. .....yeah, same exact hormonal screw over.

I guess I'm done with sex. That is some highly effective birthcontrol.

[Mlle d. Sade]

Thank you for the clarification and the link!

CocoaPuss Zine said:

no that's not true. there are two types of IUDs. one is hormonal and one is not. the one that is not is copper. my friend sarah got one and she does not have kids. the copper one is good for 10 years and you can get it taken out whenever you feel like it. you really should look into it. there are absolutely no hormones involved, but like every form of birth control there are risks.

http://www.paragard.com/


Mlle d. Sade said:

LesYpersound said:

i'd imagine the hormonal IUD would have similar fucking w/ yer body effects. and i've read in the United States you need to have had a baby or pregnancy in order to get an IUD. otherwise I would've gotten one too. :p

And be in a stable relationship. .....yeah, same exact hormonal screw over.

I guess I'm done with sex. That is some highly effective birthcontrol.

[LesYpersound]

yeah i guess that's why i specifically said the hormonal IUD probably fucks a woman up the same way birth control pills would. also i've read many cases where the hormonal IUD is less effective than the copper one. /me shrugs. those were anecdotal of course.

but thanks for the clarification.