Yay or Nay - Asking Out A Co-Worker

[Ken-K]

So for the last few weeks, I've been thinking a lot about the new person at my job. I've since gotten over the fact that she was hired for a job I could have easily been promoted to (proposal development, I've aided the proposal department so many times, it's not even funny), as the real blame should go to the HR manager, who I've affectionately nicknamed "Some Ol' Bullshit". She knows the new girl personally, and pulled strings to convince the head honch to hire her. But I digress.

Anyway, we have the usual co-worker moments, passing each other in the halls, asking how the other's weekend was, etc. The question is, do I pursue? I've already invited her to lunch once, but she already had plans, the same for when I invited her to happy hour this past Friday. i kinda just want to flat out ask her on a date and cut the bullshit. Mind you, this isn't like like all my other post-break-up experiences. If I get shot down, I still have to see this woman every day we're both working her! Even if it works out briefly then nothing comes of it, I have to see her everyday!

Furthermore, if I'm being totally honest with myself, the part of me that usually wins out when it comes to women, the nice guy, is at odds with the growing part of me that kinda just wants get her in bed one time and be done with her. I know, it's awful, and I honestly don't like thinking that way, at least not in a situation where the girl in question certainly doenst seem like the type to operate on the same wavelength. Perhaps I'm giving her too much credit 'cause she seems so quaint (I swear, some of her wardrobe looks like it's from the 50s). She may be the "freak of the week" type for all I know, but I should be so lucky.

I know it seems like I'm answering my own question here, but I figured I'd see what others thought.

[Ken-K]

Daoud said:

Went on second date with the co-worker, cool. She still seems interested but just as cautious as any other female her age (late 30's to 40's, my age range). Seems more concerned about her nosy neighbors than the staff. Funny because another co-worker is floating around like she wants to do something too. I don't know, one thong's for sure is that nothing will jump off until school's out in less than a month.

That a Freudian Slip, Daoud, or just an innocent misspelling.

[Daoud]

^^^ HA, hahahaaa oh sh----
yes Dr. Ken, maybe something else was on my mind.

[Daoud]

Date went well; very well...
This might work out a little something realisticly because it's the end of the year. Went to see a movie then had dinner here and got more 'personal' afterwards. Cool.
We stay out of the school rumour mill for two weeks and it'll be alright. Now I just have to keep the other co-worker at bay.

[Ken-K]

Keep your wits about your, good sir! You just might pull this off!

Daoud said:

Date went well; very well...
This might work out a little something realisticly because it's the end of the year. Went to see a movie then had dinner here and got more 'personal' afterwards. Cool.
We stay out of the school rumour mill for two weeks and it'll be alright. Now I just have to keep the other co-worker at bay.

[Daoud]

Yes bro, I'm trying to stay focused

[Daoud]

Things are progressing. Same as before; closed mouths at work and the coming summer break will make this easier. 2 more weeks...

[Daoud]

= Postscript: It didn't work out and now she's being weird. The break wasn't bad but it's still uncomfortable. Y'all who said 'no' to workplace dating were right in this case. Spoke on it in LSDR. I do see couples need more space.

[bEeefF]

Probably is not a good idea at work. If something goes wrong, it could cost you your job.

[Daoud]

Can I say again it's probably not a good idea (most of the time). Me and the woman I dated over the summer are only now getting more comfortable around each other. And fortunately the other who dug me apparently got herself a "good church-going man". Great for both of us 'cause that ain't me and I wasn't interested.