Yay or Nay - Asking Out A Co-Worker

[Ken-K]

So for the last few weeks, I've been thinking a lot about the new person at my job. I've since gotten over the fact that she was hired for a job I could have easily been promoted to (proposal development, I've aided the proposal department so many times, it's not even funny), as the real blame should go to the HR manager, who I've affectionately nicknamed "Some Ol' Bullshit". She knows the new girl personally, and pulled strings to convince the head honch to hire her. But I digress.

Anyway, we have the usual co-worker moments, passing each other in the halls, asking how the other's weekend was, etc. The question is, do I pursue? I've already invited her to lunch once, but she already had plans, the same for when I invited her to happy hour this past Friday. i kinda just want to flat out ask her on a date and cut the bullshit. Mind you, this isn't like like all my other post-break-up experiences. If I get shot down, I still have to see this woman every day we're both working her! Even if it works out briefly then nothing comes of it, I have to see her everyday!

Furthermore, if I'm being totally honest with myself, the part of me that usually wins out when it comes to women, the nice guy, is at odds with the growing part of me that kinda just wants get her in bed one time and be done with her. I know, it's awful, and I honestly don't like thinking that way, at least not in a situation where the girl in question certainly doenst seem like the type to operate on the same wavelength. Perhaps I'm giving her too much credit 'cause she seems so quaint (I swear, some of her wardrobe looks like it's from the 50s). She may be the "freak of the week" type for all I know, but I should be so lucky.

I know it seems like I'm answering my own question here, but I figured I'd see what others thought.

[Obsidian]

Just say no to office romance. Plain and simple unless you are soon to be leaving the jobs. Just remain friends and pursue else where. This is like BIG no no territory.

[jahluv]

Just

say

no....


Office romances are tricky, and can be used by supervisors to discipline, demote, or fire you (read that personnel brochure you got when you were hired). If things go bad, do you really want to see that person every day? If they go well, do you want to see your girlfriend all damn day?

Just

say

no...

[Rosenda]

Right on, JL. As my cousin C in Houston tells me: never get your honey from the place you make your money.

I've been in the Office Boogaloo. Many years ago......I was the one who ended up saying goodbye to the fella, but he was the one who quit his job there the next week. Obviously it bothered him enough that we would bump into each other.

You answered your own question, K. Best of luck.

[Ken-K]

Well, it just sucks 'cause today, she's wearing these sexy-as-fuck "cat-lense" glasses, and I don't know what I'm gonna do!!

[Christopher Irving]

RED ALERT!!

For God's sake,DON'T EVEN GO THAT ROUTE!!

[V]

I say just keep inviting her to group events like happy hour and such.

Make your moves and impress her there. I know I personally get very uncomfortable when strangers ask me out on a serious date the first time around....especially if I never thought of them like that before.

Be cautious.

[AbuelitaTalula27]

no! don't dip into company ink!!!

[XiaMin]

I agree it's just not worth it. Also she may be thinking it's a bad idea as well since she keeps politely declining the invites.

[Daoud]

Yeah go ahead and do it. I mean, who really needs a 'job' in these economic boom times? You only live once, homegurl is just playing coy.
Just step to her in the breakroom, grab her hand & say ' let's skip the date and head for the supply closet '...

I believe even the Diebold hanging chads unanimously say NO. I feel you 'cause the majority of my staff at the school and throughout the school district are 'holla at'-worthy and most of the rest are at least tappable. I've had jawns at work step to me and co-workers try to hook me up and with great resignation I've avoided the inner-staff fling and the resulting drama that would occur.

I detailed some of my less-than-professional work fantasies & attractions in posts before in my 'Adventures in Sub-teaching' thread in the old AP 1.0 and here now. Not much has changed with my new position as an class assistant. The women & opportunity are there but it ain't worth headaches. I just cooled off a flirty thing that was going on between me and this female busdriver. Now it's all winks and shoulder taps but the students were even noticing it.

Dig this: two years ago I almost asked the secretary (who was fine herself) about the relationship status of the cute female principal at a school I was subbing at. I luckily found out by myself she was married with a second child coming so fortunately I didn't let anything slip out. This same principal later hired me on staff at her school and gave me a glowing personal written recommendation. Think I would have got that if she knew I was checking her out? Doubtful.

Stick with the sweet closed-door scenarios running through your head each time she passes with cat-glasses. They're much safer than recalling them on the unemployment line.

[Ken-K]

And I made so much progress getting to know her at lunch today! We were treating another co-worker whose birthday is today, and she just happened to pick the same restaurant for lunch, so we wrangled her over (and there was even a nice little gap at the table between myself and another co-worker, for her to fit in!), and we were able to do so serious chatting. She laughed at my jokes, seems very interesting, etc. The only problem is, the group conversation almost immediately turned to her one of our co-workers who is over overseas right now, and how great it would be for him and her to get together. And I'm like, WTF?!?!? One, I could tell she was a little embarassed (just from the sheer number of us who are all privy to this, now), and two, what am I?!?! Chopped liver?!? Basically, the conversation evolved into ranking all the male employees, and just a whole bunch of shit that I didn't want on her mind, as i made plans to approach her!. Now she's been so bombarded with ideas of being matched up with someone in our office, I get the feeling she'd welcome my advances even less.

And now the two Myers and Cokes I had are starting to hit me. Thank god it's almost quittin' time!

[SensualDreds]

See I'm thinking why not ..do you like excitement, drama, the suspense of almost getting caught, doing the do on the job.. because that all comes along with the acting on the attraction. I wouldn't but sounds like a soap opera in the making something I could write about!! The afternoon liason with the cutey co-worker and black stud man..LMAO!!!

I want to know if you do....

Peace and Love
Sun

[Ken-K]

Okay, what if I mack on the sales rep from Canon who's trying to get us a new copier?