do you have a type?

[digitalxsunrise]

so i'm talking to a friend of mine whom i am interested in dating. he's black as well & he said that he's shocked that i like him. i asked why, seeing as we have a lot of things in common. he said that he thought that he didn't fit the "type" of guy i'd usually like.


personally, i don't have a "type" because i try not to label people [i do but it doens't affect my friendships or social circle]. the only requirements for me to like you is to be funny & honest. how do you all feel about "type" dating? [stereotypes, race, religion, etc.]

[Boudica]

Tala Boudica said:

My type: I'll know it when I see it. I have never sat down and thought about the numerous qualities I am attracted to- many are subjective and/or stereotypical anyway. My type first qualifies as someone I'm not only tolerant of, but I enjoy the company of. There's no clear way to define chemistry, personality, physical attraction and spiritual attraction for me, but I'll know it when I see it. If they SA and personality is there, sometimes physical attraction develops, but that's nothing I'd force.

And a few months later I got stuff to add! I'm still young (of course), so this is all subject to change, but I think they're reasonable. If I'm single for life, I guess that'll be why! xD

Anyway, back on topic:
As a pansexual, I have an immense amount of attraction to all sorts of people. Every time I cross off a feature that I don't like, I meet or come across an "exception" to that rule. This "exception" then brings the whole rule into question; who am I to get rid of an entire spectrum when clearly someone can have this trait and still be attractive? So I've given up defining physical attributes I don't like and instead am quite open (while knowing what I DO like).

Standards
(if you're coal black, palest white, or anything in between; rigid male or female, or inbetween)
For ease of writing, I will be switching from male to female pronouns as I see fit.

* This person knows who she is. I cannot stress this enough! She knows who she is.
* If this person doesn't know who she is, she is activitely and privately on her own spiritual journey to discover herself.
* He knows what he wants. He's not wishy washy, constantly feeling pained to make a solid decision with solid consequences. She owns her decision and overcomes the consequences.
* He doesn't holla; he treats me like the queen I am.
* Also important: he treats other women with respect.
* He has a good relationship with his family. Even if they don't get along, it is a promising sign to see that he can maturely navigate his less than stellar family relations.
* Animal lover!
* She doesn't have to have my same fashion interests, but she embraces and loves what is on me (or off me for that matter) because it has to do with me.
* It isn't all about sex, but sex isn't off the table either. The relationship relates more to sensuality.
* Any talk of children is left to when we are both mentally mature enough to raise another human being. AND! Financially stable. There will be no talk of little ones if there is debt or uncertainty. Having such strong memories myself, I refuse to bring a child into an unstable environment. Yes! This means I'm not talking evil successors to the throne until I hit my 30s.
* He knows me for who I am, and loves me for my virtues and my faults.
* Still! She does not just accept me! No, no. She challenges me to better myself in the best of ways.
* We explore each other, she encourages me to further explore myself (mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally).
* We can have those tough racial discussions, and at times we can both admit to really not knowing what the other is going through race-wise. That respect is very important to me. I don't need a lecture about seeing things that aren't there when they are (sadly) there.
* This person takes care of herself. She doesn't have to be a health-freak or personal trainer, but she makes an effort towards her appearance and everything is balanced.
* Intellectual
* Motivated to succeed (even if she doesn't know where she's going, she makes sure that the present is still taken care of)
* Patient, if not tolerant
* Strong (in spirit)
* Caring, empathetic
* Romantic; I love old fashion romance! Walks on the beach, roses by the dozen, hand written notes with a kiss on the envelope! Courtship even after commitment.

[Satra Sia]

I had a type until I realized how OVERRATED it was...I don't have a type anymore...lolz

[LesYpersound]

my friend's observation--regarding males: sometimes tall, always slim, and possibly gay.
lulz...

[Xilomen]

I don't have a type. I see myself liking similar dudes from time to time but I'm attracted to all kinds. 'Types' are limiting. If my friends and family were to have input on this they'd say my type is Light skin skinny tall fuzzy/curly haired mexican/native american. I must admit with my track record of the opposite sex it will look this way but when it comes down to it looks only last for so long and I need a deeper connection. If your cute and we can't connect...we will have NO CHANCE of making it.