do you have a type?

[digitalxsunrise]

so i'm talking to a friend of mine whom i am interested in dating. he's black as well & he said that he's shocked that i like him. i asked why, seeing as we have a lot of things in common. he said that he thought that he didn't fit the "type" of guy i'd usually like.


personally, i don't have a "type" because i try not to label people [i do but it doens't affect my friendships or social circle]. the only requirements for me to like you is to be funny & honest. how do you all feel about "type" dating? [stereotypes, race, religion, etc.]

[Rosenda]

I think that I have a fantasy "type" and then there's the type of man that I think is good for me. Sometimes that ain't the same thing.

[lyfenlyn]

Rosenda said:

I think that I have a fantasy "type" and then there's the type of man that I think is good for me. Sometimes that ain't the same thing.

You aint said nothing but a werd on that one sistuh.

[ScarredxSugar]

tall/big
funny
glasses

i'm also attracted to guys with a bad boy streak and on the other hand shy nerdy guys make me have to change panties

[lyfenlyn]

Sekou said:

not per se....but as mama told me "opposites attract, but similarities are everlasting

This is what I am trying to zero in on so I can have the everlasting. I need someone similar to me.

[SaintGermaine]

Well I'll be damned, I must be new Ricardo Montlebaum around here, because I am one huge dork! Ladies, the queque forms to the left....(crickets)...


Ahem, As to my type, hmmm...I'm not usually in any position to dictate terms, but I would like to start dating women of color more often, as opposed to the hippy white chicks that are usually attracted to me. I like a woman with a dark sense of humor, or someone who I can live in a childlike fantasy world with. Music is a big thing for me, I'm pretty obsessive, so I tend to judge people by the kind of music they listen to. It might not be right, but I spend 90% of my life listening to music, if we can't do that togethor, well, what's the point.

Someone come to the NY Comic Con with me in February! That might be a good little Afropunk meet-up in general.

[scotty swan]

short,tall ,dark, light, dreads ,shaved head(girls that shave their heads are so fucking sexy..good god!) spikes..curvy girls..thin girls..as long as she's open minded & not only sexually .creative..if she makes stuff & is a little bit shy..clumsy & akward & real..i'm a sucker for girl that draws or writes or takes pictures..if you play an instrument...i'm your's even if you're trying to learn..ii don't care about your clothes or your car..just be real..& i'm on team cuddle& kiss....big fan of holding hands even if we're at home on the couch..yeah ..so no glamour girl's..so yeah..clone's that you see in the mall's as fine as they are i wouldn't fuck with them..i wnt the girl sitting in the back of the bookstore ,indian style drinking her coffee reading bust magazine..with your ipod listening to some bootleg of prince doing random covers of bad brains...ok..imma stop now.

[Nygo Samo]

Well usually guys with dreads.....musician,painter,poet,speak french, Spanish, and English, whose spiritual. Not to sound racist, but I don't really like white guys I've noticed....tattoos, genius intelligence, yet humble. more...i just cant think of it yet.

[Khamila]

my type is a man. haha, sounds broad but i like men, not boys. SO i htink that is an umbrella of stuff but I'm so tired of bs and being dissapointed. honestly. I would like to keep my options open.
people often look at a guy and tell me oh he looks like someone you'd like and as much as i hate to admit theyre right. i find that person usually physically attractive (guys that wear glasses, dreads, afros, certain styles, some skateboarders etc etc). But of course it has to go beyond that. I've had crushes and liked guys that dont fit into thos caategories and i liked them all based on thier personalities. And often the ones that fit into the categories listed always or many times (maybe 1/2) tend to be straight up a**holes .Types get you into trouble and limit haha.
so ill go with what i started with...my type is a man.

[lyfenlyn]

lyfenlyn said:

I'm attracted to a wide range of looks. But the common denom is usually a quirky sense of humor. Intellectual without being eliteist. Kind hearted, and corny romantic.

The rest is secondary.

I like deep voices, and bright eyes.

I do have to elaborate a little. I mean I am having this siutation on line with this black barney fife who is constantly badgering me. There's always this whole 'you never know' sort of thing that floats around every interaction you have with people. However, I am trying to not get caught up in the whole ' well I'm not doing anything else' frame of mind, and really make an effort to find and date men that I am actually interested in and attracted to and have things in common with other than skin color. I live in a suburban hell hole and I may have mentioned that I get alot of Levert members, and church deacons or mushy mouthed durty souf boyz trying to talk to me. All I can say is EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW! It makes me sound like Cher from Clueless; I know, but AS IF! I feel I have always just sort of convinced myself I had to like this dude because he liked me. But that era is over. I have a thing for afropunk dudes, artists, creative expressive types. Naturally it's mad hard to find ones without emotional problems and or substance abuse issues. I'd love to date a man who loved hip hop more than anything, as long as he was open to experiencing the world at large and not just tunneled into only one thing. I can't do average Joe anymore. Been there, done that---over it.

[Boombats]

Rich white girls with terminal illnesses.

[lyfenlyn]

Boombats said:

Rich white girls with terminal illnesses.

BWAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!

[Boombats]

lyfenlyn said:

Boombats said:

Rich white girls with terminal illnesses.

BWAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!

How else I gonna pay for my Cadillac?