Afropunk Queers

[Mota]

If you're a homo and you know it, clap your hands :clap: :clap:


Afropunk queers 2.0

Get yer gay on...lolz

[SugarTits]

Ferndale Pride = teh hawtness!
It gets less and less fun for me the older I get, but it's still a blast. If only I didn't have so many disgruntled ex-girlfriends storming around looking for me...

[DanielaInfinity]

I am queer, not lesbian. I like who I like and that is my preference and my business.
Most people are meah anyway (wa wa). ;) But seriously, I feel lucky that I have the option
to be able to be with whoever I want, because there are so many beautiful people (inside and out) in the world. I don't like most restrictions, including gender roles.

I also don't like most "gay" events or groups because I find them to not be inclusive enough and often boring as hell. I don't go to gay pride because I think it's gross (I did go often several years ago in CA). Gross as in being pressed against a bunch of sweaty, drunk people who I don't relate to. Most people wouldn't guess but I have been all over the spectrum (super femme, super butch, etc.) but now I am simply me (aw) and loathe labels of any sort.

I have been single for over a year now (dating here and there) but haven't met anyone yet who can accept me as I am or who isn't trapped in a mental prison. I will continue to be single until I meet someone who is beautiful (inside and out).

[Mlle d. Sade]

DanielaInfinity said:

I am queer, not lesbian. I like who I like and that is my preference and my business.
Most people are meah anyway (wa wa). ;) But seriously, I feel lucky that I have the option
to be able to be with whoever I want, because there are so many beautiful people (inside and out) in the world. I don't like most restrictions, including gender roles.

I also don't like most "gay" events or groups because I find them to not be inclusive enough and often boring as hell. I don't go to gay pride because I think it's gross (I did go often several years ago in CA). Gross as in being pressed against a bunch of sweaty, drunk people who I don't relate to. Most people wouldn't guess but I have been all over the spectrum (super femme, super butch, etc.) but now I am simply me (aw) and loathe labels of any sort.

I have been single for over a year now (dating here and there) but haven't met anyone yet who can accept me as I am or who isn't trapped in a mental prison. I will continue to be single until I meet someone who is beautiful (inside and out).

Bi-sexual? Pan sexual?

I don't know how to deal with it, honestly.

i definately cannot find someone who will accept me without doing that weird thing "I like you even though. .." most people say I need to move but I really don't see that changing much because asshats are everywhere.

I actually think I'm more pan sexual than bi sexual.. .but the wording around that orientation is so sketchy anyone could be that.

[Mlle d. Sade]

Ah. My thing (perspective) is messed up whenever I see "non-lesbian" but queer; I think bi because that's how I label myself (how messed up is that?).

[DanielaInfinity]

...I don't identify as lesbian, bi or pan because language and representation is tricky and I feel
those words don't accurately define me. Queer is adequate. Really, language is kind of a bother. We can only make a limited amount of sounds with our mouths and I think that a person is so much more than a, e, i, o u, bleah.

Also, although I have typed it I have never said "I am queer" out loud to anyone. I have never had a reason to. I am very open with my family and friends - trying to figure out my sexuality is probably the last thing on their minds at this point.

The only time it is ever a "problem" is when I attempt to date someone who doesn't get it - who
is too preoccupied with trying to figure out what "it" is. Nowadays I don't let it get far enough to run into that issue.



Not a Punk. said:

I read she goes by queer
which in my opinion is neither bi or pan
"In contemporary usage, some use queer as an inclusive, unifying sociopolitical umbrella term for people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, transsexual, intersexual, genderqueer, or of any other non-heterosexual sexuality, sexual anatomy, or gender identity. It can also include asexual and autosexual people, as well as gender normative heterosexuals whose sexual orientations or activities place them outside the heterosexual-defined mainstream (e.g. BDSM practitioners, or polyamorous persons)."
wiki

but uh yeah, I always say if I had to label myself it would be Queer
mainly because I identify as genderqueer and am pretty much open to dating anyone whose not hetero male-born

Honestly i'm all for a monogamous long term relationship.
Cept for the past few years i've been too fucked up & selfish(loner) to date anyone. Eh
I guess i'll start dating and whatever, whenever I come to peace with myself.
At the moment, I wouldn't wish anyone on me :)

kinda sucks though...such is life

eww I just got open

[Mlle d. Sade]

I'm sure I have family members actively pondering my sexuality right now. My mom just doesn't get it (she denies it, doesn't take it seriously; just plain doesn't respond to me) and wants me to date all these little boys she picks out and my aunt has actively tried to get me in church to erase all homosexual urges that I may have. So for me, I have to say something lest someone define me as something I am not; my mother believes I am straight because she thinks it's 1)a phase or 2)something done just to spite her. I really hate talking about it. It's another one of those "nothing" issues where nothing can be done and the response is nothing it's all so nothing.

And no one gets it; all creatures misidentify the word bi sexual as meaning "dirty whore who will give you a VD". So whatever. . . I know I'm bi, fizzuck every naysayer/negative nancy including bi bashers.

[Adrianna]

i`m bi & thats ab it i love people!

[GodsavetheQueer]

oh i haven't been on here in ages.
my girlfriend never does it with me anymore, so she bought some sex pills. That's all fine and dandy, but i'd rather her not have told me about them, because now instead of being all 'ooh she suddenly finds me attractive and wants to get it on' i'll be all 'ah she only wants to do it because she took Steel Libido and i don't really turn her on for real.' I mean I definitely appreciate the effort but..am I overreacting?

[guitargrrrl76]

DanielaInfinity said:

I am queer, not lesbian. I like who I like and that is my preference and my business.
Most people are meah anyway (wa wa). ;) But seriously, I feel lucky that I have the option
to be able to be with whoever I want, because there are so many beautiful people (inside and out) in the world. I don't like most restrictions, including gender roles.

I also don't like most "gay" events or groups because I find them to not be inclusive enough and often boring as hell. I don't go to gay pride because I think it's gross (I did go often several years ago in CA). Gross as in being pressed against a bunch of sweaty, drunk people who I don't relate to. Most people wouldn't guess but I have been all over the spectrum (super femme, super butch, etc.) but now I am simply me (aw) and loathe labels of any sort.

I have been single for over a year now (dating here and there) but haven't met anyone yet who can accept me as I am or who isn't trapped in a mental prison. I will continue to be single until I meet someone who is beautiful (inside and out).

I haven't been here in forever. yea. I like who I like. If you make me happy, i don't care what tools you are rolling with at present. It's so hard to find someone to connect with anyway. Bi, Queer, call it what you will. I've had girls that I wanted really bad, guys that I've wanted really bad, and some in between. It is what it is.

[stefany]

*waves at thread*

Does anyone else live in a city where most of the lesbians are in an evil clique? Makes it awfully hard to date.

[guitargrrrl76]

*raises hand* I've given up on meeting a chick in Austin. They've all dated each other and most are elitist. I've pretty much given up on dating in Austin in general, or anywhere for that matter. Shit just never works out for me.

stefany said:

*waves at thread*

Does anyone else live in a city where most of the lesbians are in an evil clique? Makes it awfully hard to date.

[Mlle d. Sade]

GodsavetheQueer said:

oh i haven't been on here in ages.
my girlfriend never does it with me anymore, so she bought some sex pills. That's all fine and dandy, but i'd rather her not have told me about them, because now instead of being all 'ooh she suddenly finds me attractive and wants to get it on' i'll be all 'ah she only wants to do it because she took Steel Libido and i don't really turn her on for real.' I mean I definitely appreciate the effort but..am I overreacting?

Are you taking into account that she may be under stress? Just like men, women have sexual problems infact more women have sexual dysfunctions than men (they are never addressed because "only men are supposed to have that problem") because everything has to be right for us; our environment, everything for us to even get in the mood.

I wish more people would make viagra-like supplements for women. Most women are ashamed to bring it up to their doctors, tho.

Frigidity doesn't mean lack of desire for you. I bet she feels bad about it too.